Parents of twins: not easy to manage the arrival of two babies! According to a recent study, parents of twins or triplets are more likely to divorce. One reason cited is the financial cost of these births, which would deteriorate the relationship. Moms of twins are 20% more not to return to work after maternity leave. A loss of this income is added as the purchase of health products, clothing, beds, strollers ... multiplied by 2 or 3.
Besides the financial aspect, another enemy of your relationship is the short time that you spend. When you brought home your adorable little ones, everything was ready. You had bought a baby monitor, baby beds and two layers (lots of layers!). You have undoubtedly studied many books explaining how to take care of your babies, and how to achieve manage multiple. As you are trained for what surely will be one of the biggest races of your life, no one told you to train yourself to fight the inevitable tensions that these little ones will not fail to create in your torque.
You are probably very busy, but take a tiny step back. Make your marriage a priority. If this is not the case, the father will suffer, the mother will suffer, and ultimately, the entire family will suffer. It's hard, it's worth it. Your family does look better, and ultimately, you'll love!
Time together (without children)
Make a list of everyone who could keep children with their telephone numbers. Parents, friends, neighbors, babysitters should be included. Identify those you will pay and those who do charge, to finally get those precious hours of babysitting so that you need.
Plan to keep your children at least twice a month. For this you need to plan. Your wife looks forward to these appointments and will be happy to spend time with you without children. Your husband will have the satisfaction of seeing his wife happy (do not underestimate the power!). When you go, do what you enjoy doing when you did not multiple. Go to a movie, restaurant, or simply have fun. Enjoy the company of the other, with your spouse as the main attraction (in other words: no children).
Be nice to one another
We all know that kids can get on your nerves. Picky eaters and finicky toddlers can make any adult grumpy. The sleepless nights, the perpetual demands and daily stress can all make us irritable after a while. Despite everything, do to your spouse by wearing the weight of your daily frustrations.
If you enjoyed that Papa put everyone in the stroller and take the children for a walk and you do not ask him anything, tell him. If you like that Mom's do coloring with triplets: tell him. Thank you, do you praise, encourage you and praise you! Everyone enjoys being praise .. We make easily to children, but more difficult to our spouse. So do not hesitate to abuse it!
Pass through the small
When you see these dirty diapers that Dad left floor, resist the urge to criticize. When mom has not had time to make the bed, look elsewhere. Do not criticize, do not demolish each other. Keep your words for when really necessary, not for the small irritations of daily life.
Praise you
You are a team that happens to manage, make them happy and educate many children the same age without counting the brothers and sister. Say you have merit and you are complicit enough to get there. As soon as possible a little compliment here is fun!
Let you out, see friends with children
Parents of twins: Do not isolate yourself from your circle of friends, even if you are tired, invite the world into your home, make a simple meal but friendly, accept invitations children adapt more easily than is believes. Motivate you, you will see you will not regret it. See friends can get your mind and realize that with more children have fared as well. If you earn more compliments "you know how you do", "you are super organized" you will be all the happier.
Do not be overwhelmed by your children
If you teach your children to sleep on time and in their beds, to meet a nap time or quiet time in the afternoon, to play together without arguing, getting up in the morning without screaming and for leading not to disturb the parents before a certain time. You will be calmer and your couple too.
Reinvent your sexuality
A couple runs on three elements: the emotional understanding, sexuality and joint projects. It is well known after pregnancy women's libido is down, added to this fatigue, pregnancy with a huge belly during which you are far each other physically, instead of babies ... your life sex was good whack, reinvent there, you listen, take time, talk.
Agree through some difficult times
Some moments will be more difficult than others. You'll find that sometimes your only couple can pass through and that nobody can help. We must accept that this is not always rosy and that this will pass and that your relationship will be even stronger.