1 - When and How to Make Love?
If the pregnancy is progressing normally, there is no reason why the couple stops having sex.
Pregnancy and libido
Libido of a pregnant woman is often worse: its rate of estrogen is indeed higher and genitals and her breasts are best irrigated by blood. However, libido decreases during the first months of pregnancy due to nausea and psychological factors. Between the third and sixth months, the libido has instead tended to increase. It decreases again in recent months, when the reports become really uncomfortable. About a third of couples, however, continues to make love in recent weeks.
Recommended positions
During the first months, you can keep your habits. But in the second quarter, certain positions, like the missionary (man on woman) can become uncomfortable. This is an opportunity to try something else! The wife may be lying on her partner, her legs placed between her thighs. The doggy style position (penetration from the rear) requires little effort. It is often exciting for the man. It is therefore recommended for males tired ... but also to pregnant women. The man can stimulate the erogenous zones of the G-spot and his partner (placed on all fours). Its variant, the lateral position, back, is also very comfortable. In a little under the knees, the woman behind facilitate penetration. The man may also caress her clitoris and breasts. The position of Andromaque allows the woman, astride, to better control the depth of penetration. Several variants of the missionary position that man avoid crushing the belly and breasts of his partner. In supporting its weight with his arms, he keeps the torso raised and therefore not based on it. Less tiring for the man, and just as comfortable for the woman: she lies on the edge of the bed, feet on the ground, while he is kneeling at the foot of the bed between her thighs. You are obviously not required to abandon all these positions after childbirth.
Alternative: the penetrative sex
If sex is still full too uncomfortable, then think oral sex, mutual masturbation and massage: they relieve the aches and pains of pregnancy. By sucking the breasts of the woman, the man being much excitement and prepare the nipple for breastfeeding.
2 - When to stop the sex?
Medical reasons, against-indications
If you already had a miscarriage, ask your doctor, especially for first month. It probably will advise you to avoid deep penetration. Avoid penetration if you have risk of miscarriage: bleeding during early pregnancy or cramping in the lower abdomen during the first two quarters may be warning signs (warning accompanying uterine contractions orgasm can sometimes trigger a miscarriage). If cramps occur during the third quarter, they can be a sign of preterm labor. During the second quarter, cramping and bleeding may indicate placental problems: again, penetration and orgasm should be avoided. If you lose your water, stop having sex and consult your doctor.
Other reasons
The woman may feel tired, especially early and late pregnancy. His new "silhouette" may diminish the complexing and his desire.
The conventional wisdom
Having sex can not hurt the baby. It is well protected inside the amniotic sac. Thanks to the amniotic fluid that surrounds it can not receive calls. With good hygiene, there is no risk of infection. The cervix is tightly closed by the mucous plug. Of course, orgasms cause uterine contractions, in May if the pregnancy is progressing normally, they can not trigger premature labor.
3 - And After giving birth?
Fatigue, "Bottle Night," can cause sleepless nights (temporarily) a sexual disinterest. Hormonal imbalances and breast feeding can also cause a decreased desire. From a medical perspective, the couple may have sex full two weeks after delivery. Indeed it is better to wait until the vagina and cervix have healed. It can take between two weeks and two months. Have orgasms help the uterus return to its original shape. If you had an episiotomy, it will take two or three months before healing
Pain in the perineal area may decrease sexual desire. After healing, the woman may feel excited, but the mere thought of the penetration may deter having sex. Vaginal irritation may also make penetration painful. If vaginal dryness, consider using a lubricant.