Birth is a huge upheaval in the life of a couple. Even if it is prepared! The transition from 2 to 3 is not always obvious. Reorganization of the timing and fatigued does not necessarily play for the couple. The climate sensual prelude to sex play once horniest new parents, is not always the go. However, around obstacles and Eros between twittering and convene feedings is always possible.
Sex after baby: To listen, do not force!
After delivery, a pause "no sex" is a must. Different factors come into play, both physiological and psychological. The needs of the mother are usually completely filled by the baby. The appearance fusional or symbiotic relationship with the newborn, can even lead to feelings of exclusion for the father. Two elements that do not support the premise of a strong sexual attraction for mad escapades.
Furthermore, childbirth is extremely tiring. Episiotomy, cesarean section or just bleeding sometimes abundant seriously hampering the sexual appetite. Especially since the prolactin hormone or lactation is associated with a decreased libido and vaginal dryness sometimes. "If there is no normative clean time, a period of one month, however, to predict" the doula recommends Melanie Schmidt-Ulmann, whose role is to assist women before and after baby arrives. It also advocates listening to his body, rather than be forced by guilt over the desire of his companion.
As for new fathers also desire can know many fluctuations. Some perceive, and rightly so, their wife as a mother rather than a lover. Attributes previously reserved to sex, namely the breasts and vagina, confusing, preventing them from growing new doors gender, in a new context.
To create bubbles of privacy
The recovery is easier in the case where there is no real break in the rhythm during pregnancy. Otherwise, raise his feminine side, sensual and sexy is a first step. Taking care of yourself, make small breaks massages, feet and hands, for example, to slip into a bath two represent as many little things to ourselves and to another that will change that. "Try as much as possible to take time around the couple, although we well know, initially the baby remains central" insists Melanie Schmidt-Ulmann. These are often of little more than fleeting moments of great events that recreate a bubble of privacy. A step that is built together.
Regain confidence in his body
After pregnancy and childbirth, the body has undergone many transformations. For a return to confidence and well-being sensual, massage and tone the pelvic floor are at the top of the list. For the former, are requesting the new dad, and made also hire a professional home. Once every 3 weeks for example ... As for the perineum, beyond the sessions recommended by your doctor during the postnatal visit, it is possible to practice a home gym and to combine business with pleasure. "As such, the Swissball, this big round ball of 60 to 75 cm in diameter, is ideal. This discipline postural and strengthening core muscles is both fun and efficient way to massage the perineum and rehabilitate ..." suggests the doula.
During lovemaking, favor certain positions more than others can help the mother regain taste for sex games, while taking account of his body. That of a spoon, or you are fitted one behind the other, is favorable to the caresses, the soft touch, and a shallow penetration. Do not sulk tradition or leisure, sometimes a good missionary you can also paste in the stars peepers ... Once baby has found his rhythm and you You, you the mad escapades ...